THE POWER BEHIND THE THRONE.

Man, it's been hard for the Middle Finger the last few days. New Stimuli has entered into my energy, causing a cross wiring of my Time circuits, sending a negative 1.21 Gigawatts directly into my flux capicator and visa vee, concordingly, alas, systematically causing a temporary influx of a paradigm shift inside my temporal lobe and creating a slight malfunction in my hippocampus resulting in a delay in the written progression of the electrical impulse interaction of the neurons that you have grown to know as my blog.


Confused yet? Probably. Actually, what I basically said was that an outside influence has caused me to struggle in my ability to create my blog because the focus of my thought pattern had shifted. Still not clear? I was focused on other SHYT. Because of that, I couldn't get my eyes to go "WHITE" and zone out like I usually can. Them shyts was like Ivory, you know, the color that chicks try to wear when they get married but can't really wear white? Kinda like Luther's(RIP) Curl.... Just couldn't..... Just Wouldn't quite..... Kinda like University of Louisville winning a National Championship since Reagan was in office... Almost...but no cigar. <------------ Don't get mad, Card fans... Keep Reading.


No matter what I tried, or what I did, or where I either looked for, or found(A Smile in the Stars) inspiration, I couldn't put it into that Philosophical Laffy Taffy that you love to chew on.

You may ask yourself...."Oh Shyt, Middle Finger... Are you styling??? Cuz It Looks like you about to?"

"Why, yes.... Yes I am, and thank you for asking!!"

The Middle Finger doesn't discriminate based on race, creed, sex or color..... He is an equal oppertunity "STYLER ONNER." (Yes I made that word up, So what.. Who's blog is this... That's right. MY BLOG). So I want you to get comfortable... Playas... Go get you a cold one and kick back and lemme do my Iddish.


Ladies, this is gonna be focused more to you so I want you to go get extra comfy. Go turn on the kids TV and put them some snacks down on they table so you can get a few minutes... Go unloosen ya bra after ya hard day.... Put the Heels that you rocked today that got your feet hurting and place em in the closet.. No, Boo, I know, they ain't the Manolo Blahnik Crocodile Flat Shoes, but honey... you just ain't able to be on that right now. It ain't your SEASON...but The Middle Finger don't care... Go get you a glass of Domaine Pierre Wine and if it still ain't your season... That cheap shyt will do. I just want you to relax and let the Middle Finger do what he does. So I'mma Pause why you do that.....You back? Good.


As you may know, or at least we think because it's been hard to tell, but Warmer Climate is on the way. With the ending of the colder season, and the shedding of the layers of clothes that many women have been wearing, the sweaters will be put back in the closet and the Spaghetti straps and the form fitting skirts is about to be a daily routine. Whether planned or unplanned, this time of the year usually signifies the end of the "relationship" season. Ain't it funny how when it's cold, can't get that nukka away from you, but when it warms up, he can't find enough reasons to not be MIA. Many good women, who have invested their time, effort, dedication and normally, heart to a man, often find themselves in a small state of shock when the abrupt attitude change comes as the days get longer and the night's get warmer.


Why does this happen? I, in all my middlefingerness, cannot ultimately stand in front of you with a straight face and act as if I know that answer. Commonly, it's a cultivation of a group of things. You know what they are. Other women wanting to be where you at, the man feeling restrained, his wandering eyes, or just wanting to tap something new. These are certain aspects that you just cannot control. Understand, that they are going to happen with some types of men. Skepticism is justified in this situation. Do not be totally dismissive(for whatever reason) because you may miss something due to your cynicism.( Always thinking the worst for those who didn't get 700 on the Verbal... SAT). For those of you who have stronger bonds, and a REAL relationship, ladies, this was written with you in mind.


What's a woman's favorite verse in the Bible? John 3:16? Maybe. I like that one, It's pretty BAWSE. I'm cool wit it. First Corininthians 13:4? Eh??? Possibly, maybe if it is your god sister's 3rd wedding in 6 years and you hope that it sticks this time... No, you ain't gotta look up the verse... I know you was about to... It's the Love is Patient, Love is Kind.... and all that.
But this is the MIDDLE FINGER. WE TALKING ABOUT BLACK WOMEN. BLACK WOMEN WHO GO TO CHURCH....A black woman's favorite verse and the one that they LOVE to pull out like the COMING TO AMERICA scene in the Barber shop and Rocky Marciano and Joe Louis....(that's they one... that's they one...)

A black women's favorite verse, and they might not know where to find it in the Bible, but they know it's in there is PROVERBS, 18:22.
"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD."

Ladies, you may be like...

"Uh oh, Middle Finger, You got me ready to shout in here.... You betta talk about it..."

I know, boo, but hold that thought.... This is the Middle Finger... So before you throw out them "AMENS"... Let's make sure that you got "A MAN." Cuz I know that some of you have a male in ya life.... but he ain't a MAN. Did that sting? Musta been a nerve.

Fellas you may be like "Wooo Hooo, Middle Finger, You is stylin today, playboy. I can Dig it with a Shovel"

"Oh for real? You can dig it? Well go look in the mirror and see if the person in that reflection is handling business like a MAN SHOULD, and you get back to me."

The Middle Finger likes Bible Verses too... yeah, I brought some chicken to the party... So let me feed you. Here is one of my favorites...

Ephesians 5:22-23

"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the HUSBAND is the HEAD of the WIFE as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior."


Uh, oh Middle Finger.... You may have just lost half of your female audience. Maybe... But probably not, they probably just did the People's Eyebrow(Raised one up and the other stayed flat) Or made the Scrunchy face, but they still wanna see where I'm going. That's the Sugar Ray Leonard Verse... The counter punch. Gets the neck rolling, hands active and everything. All over one teeny, tiny word. SUBMIT.

I told you to get comfortable... You know how the Middle Finger does it... It gets broken, DOWN. I don't do quickies, baby. I don't rush... I take my time... You ain't read the Davisms? Submission. Ugly word, ain't it? You ladies may be like "Uh Un, Middle Finger... I ain't got a problem with it, but..." Hold that but, baby... cuz this is the internet...and I don't know if you thick or not(pictures lie) so you may not have a but... BUT, Lulz, there is no but. You know how the verse goes because it's there for you to read. And that's NEW TESTAMENT. If you are a wife, YOU ARE TO SUBMIT to YOUR HUSBAND. I ain't say it, You need to talk to PAUL. He was dropping knowledge to the Ephesians.


I call this blog "THE POWER BEHIND THE THRONE" because that power should be a WOMAN. If she works it right. See, a lot of women don't become wives because they have been disconnected. Mentally. From that time old creed, " A man has gotta be a Man." Now, if you got some weak, sniffling, purse carrying at St. Matthews Mall type cat, sitting down with tight pants and Slippers on while you shop... Eh, this may not apply. Weaker people like people they can dominate. We don't do weak at the Middle Finger. If you got a strong man, somewhat dominant, and likes to be a man and do manly stuff... Then you in the right spot. When I say a man has gotta be a man, that doesn't mean that he gets to make every decision based on what he thinks is best and only what he thinks.

That's the Caveman way of thinking. Normally, this is from those deep south men. Those who grew up watching their mother slave hand and foot for their father. I say A man has to be a man, because that's what allows a man to have confidence. If you constantly question your man or underscore him and his RIGHTFUL PLACE OF AUTHORITY according to the Word of God, then baby, you in the wrong. Even if your man is making a bad decision, sometimes you have to just be quiet and support him. Let him fall on his face as they say, and help him pick up the pieces. Get ya weave glue gun and piece him back together. You know your man... Or at least you should. After an amount of time, you know exactly how he is going to handle a certain said situation.


My advice, Get the jump on him. If he wants to do something and you don't think it's wise... talk about it. Talk to him and state your point of view, firmly and yet still remain a lady. Do not demean him, or insult him because that's only going to make him that much more stubborn. Plan around his plan. If you think he's going to waste some money on a pipe dream. Put some away to keep just in case. A wife's job is to support her man, just as much as it is to "school" her man. A woman that knows how to hold her peace and keep still and quiet and trust her man whether she believes in his idea or not, most of the time, will find herself in a power position. I'm not saying allow yourself to be dominated 100%. But YIELDING is not weakness. It takes a much stronger person to hold their peace when their emotions are screaming than it does to SNAP BACK. Anyone can REACT. Can you REMAIN is the question.


The throne reference is also used because the man is called the proverbial KING of the household. TD JAKES said it best. A man who is not looked at as a KING, by his QUEEN will find that look somewhere else. Somewhere, there is always a Bathesheba, bathing naked trying to catch the eye of your KING DAVID. You have to determine inside yourself how you will show respect for your KING. If he is a true KING, he will elevate his queen to his side and she will rule WITH HIM. Know your King. Respect him. However, don't be stupid. Think three steps ahead. "

But Middle Finger, what If my man ain't worthy of all that?" Well, Boo, you made a bad choice then, huh? Why are you still there? We'll continue this Later tonight, I have to do Kenpo X.

The Power Behind the Throne... Part 2.

This is the Middle Finger... Telling you, there is more coming, don't miss it.